Who is the fairest of them all?
We all do it. We all walk past a mirror and check ourselves out. Walk by and pretend we’re not looking at our reflection looking back at us. In my house there is a mirror behind the kitchen table and I swear, people talk while looking at themselves and don’t even look at the rest us at the table. Is this a self esteem issue? I once had a boyfriend who literally just looked at himself while we ate dinner. Another stellar choice on my part. (Cue eye roll). Don’t worry, it didn’t last long. Back to the important stuff.
Why is it that we find the need to ‘always check our hair’?
The idea of even writing about mirrors started when I read an article and was discussing it with one of my girlfriends (shocker) and she literally had just listened to a podcast about the exact same thing. The two of us could relate. For the life of me, I can’t find the article anywhere aka or remember where I read it (she listened to Joe Rogan). Long story short, it goes something like this. A woman and her boyfriend were in a fight (we’ve all been there) and when she picked up her coat to leave in the middle of the argument, she noticed that she looked to her left. At a mirror. She looked at herself and didn’t turn around and look at the man she loved. She walked out the door and showed him. But, for the rest of the walk home, she could only think of how selfish she acted. There is no end to the story, we don’t know if they got back together or not, but that seems unimportant when you think about the lesson she was teaching us.
Who do you see when you look in the mirror?
Do you see a mother, a father, a sister, a brother, a friend, a companion? Do you see a survivor, a victim, a hero, or a tired soul? When you look in the mirror, do you smile and think, thank you. Thank you for another day. Thank you for another chance to be better than you were yesterday? Do you think, when you look in the mirror how many people love and count on you? Even the the gas station attendant who has little to no impact on your life but perhaps you were the only one who smiled at him today? Who do you see when you are brushing your teeth or putting your make up on? Who do you see when you are walking by a mirror?
At the end of the day, you are loved.
Someone is happy you are in their life. Someone likes to see those sparkling eyes, someone loves that smile, or to just hear your voice. You look great. You smell great. You look like you. So, with all the chaos going on in the world, lets take a moment to remember we don’t have to make our hair look perfect, we don’t need to glance at that mirror when we walk by it. Don’t distract yourself from the conversation you’re having to look at yourself. Don’t interrupt the person you are speaking with to adjust your suit. You look great. Be confident in the moment. Feel the people you are with. You have all night to be alone and admire yourself, but do you really need to do that? Confident people do not need to be told they are wonderful. Rich people do not need to be told they are rich. You can walk by that mirror and just keep walking. You can do it.
Because, we are all beautiful. We are full of life and of hope and we all have a reason to be here.