We are growing at Putnam Marketing, and have learned that surrounding yourself with good people you create a better you.
You are creating a stronger network and a team of people who are inadvertently cheering for you. The hustlers that understand hard work. People in your life who know Johnny Smith would be a perfect match for what you or a colleague are looking for.
Everyone has something to offer, if you listen.
It is when you tap into the introvert and the extroverted part of yourself you can become who you are supposed to be. You will then know how to read people and quickly identify their strengths and can in turn, strengthen your own team. Moving forward as a team at Putnam Marketing, we have leaned on many different resources and cherish our networks. This is where we find leads, prospects, and potential clients.
The saying it takes a village is a key saying. When you connect with people in a professional manner and have a well established network is an interracial part of our lives. Referrals and advice from the people you love and trust are the best ways to move forward. If you were going to buy a new car, the most logical idea is to ask someone who owns that car that you trust. When you recommend a product you are establishing trust and the trust you build is undeniable. It is an efficient way to build rapport.
When you are professionally building your network.
You can meet people that you wouldn’t usually meet, you can make connections that you wouldn’t usually have. LinkedIn is a wonderful resource for leads and studies prove that networking has become an essential aspect to job searching. Many jobs are not posted outside of the company so if you know someone who works inside the company that is crucial to learning how the company works.
No matter where you look in your community, there are always organizations that could use a few extra hands. Think of big brother and sister programs, local homeless shelters, boards that can allocate money to the right places. The Rotary is a great way to connect with business leaders and get out into the community.
It’s not what you know, it’s who you know.
I have been using Craig’s List for years.
We found a roommate in Breckenridge, Colorado who ended up becoming a dentist. She was great. And, ever since then, I was hooked. I’ve met roommates who then turned into friends (don’t get me wrong, I don’t have 10 cats and I’m not going onto Craig’s List to find friends or anything psycho like that), but I have found paintings for my house, and other odds and ends that go along with Craig’s List.
The ‘Payment Department’ sent me a check.
Wait, back up.
I live in a small town with the only Law School in the State of New Hampshire so my roommates have come and gone through the years, semester, or visas. My latest roommate returned to Portugal after her visa was up. Naturally, I thought that this was a good time to find another roommate.
So, logically, I put an ad on Craig’s List. It was generic and sounded like this:
“Looking for a professional roommate, who can pass a background check, non smoker, no pets. Rent one of the rooms in a two bedroom apartment close to downtown Concord and share the utilities. I am very clean, quiet, and like to have a low keyed living situation. No drama. $650 plus half utilities.”
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I mean, how simple is that?
Well. Let me tell you, I got a few responses from two women who were “traveling nurses” that wanted to rent the room. Which, honestly, is pretty common. I live near the Concord Hospital and it would make sense to stay here for a few months. I don’t want a long term commitment on that level by any means.
Back to the scam.
I had two girls respond to me right off the bat. They sent pictures, and looked like “normal” everyday people. Facebook, Twitter, Insta; normal social media platforms that regular people would stalk.
As in, me.
I explained to them that I had multiple offers (truth) and the first person to send me a check could rent the room. Commitment and I are working things out, but for the most part, have come to an agreement, we can make this happen.
Long term commitment sent me a check.
TD Bank didn’t accept it, direct deposit from my phone didn’t accept it. And then, I knew. I just knew that the fact that she wanted to borrow my sheets for her bed, that she liked to shower before work around 7:15, and, didn’t need a dresser, it was all fake.
And, then I called my mom.
Huge shocker. I talk to her all the time. If she actually used these words, she pretty much thought this was the dumbest thing she had ever heard. I think she literally said “You’re too smart to be this naive.”
Next move. I called a couple of my girlfriends.
I’m lucky they were available. Now, half the month had passed and I still didn’t have a roommate. It was game time. I would call them professional stalkers but that is not encouraged, so I will say that they quickly proved that the check was fake. My roommate was not coming.
It gets better.
LTC (I’ll abbreviate for everyone’s sake). Long Term Commitment asked me very casually to just sign a car for her. (One of my girlfriends in Breck had cars delivered when she needed them, so I thought, whatever lady. Let’s just get this over with).
Next time, hard pass.
Miss. LTC wanted her car to be here when she arrived, ‘to make the transition smoother’.
She sent me a check, with the amount for the car delivery and the amount for the rent. As if this was an every day situation.
But, seriously. Kate, no problem.
I called my favorite guy. Apparently it was all hands on deck for this debacle. Again, shocker. He laughed. Reminded me so kindly; ‘You potentially would have a STOLEN BMW sitting in your driveway that you signed for and you paid for the delivery.’ This is not my kind of fun. Netflix and chill is my kind of fun, no matter what night it is. With pizza.
Set up phone calls. Make every single person interested in what you’re selling speak with you. Don’t leave a key under your mat. And, definitely don’t sign for a car. EVER. The Concord Police operator even laughed at me. I mean, after you call your parents, your girlfriends, and main squeeze, apparently the police are the next great idea.
All I could think was, how the hell did I fall for this? Hook.Line.And.Sinker. Everyone told me this was the oldest scam in the book. So, note to self, be smarter than the book. Call your friends and family and don’t try to cash checks. Especially if the routing number starts with a zero.
Remember. Real rent, fake checks.
For Women by Chin-ning Chu.
Read it. You need it.
And, you don’t even know what you’re missing. I recently saw somewhere that CEO’s read an average of 60 books a year. So, of course, yours truly just joined a couple of book clubs and realized that it was time to stop binge watching Netflix and get smart in my downtime.
I’m working for a Chinese based company and.holy.cow.
What a cultural wake up call. The East and the West are like Yin and Yang, the sun and the moon, black and white. Think of every polar opposite that you can and that’s what I’m working with. You can’t have one without the other, opposites attract, even Paula Abdul got it down. You can learn something from your opposite.
It became very clear, very quickly that things in China are run very differently than they are in America. Starting with; the method of communication, to the relationship structures, to the basic foundation of the culture within a company and family style. Put it this way, food and sleep are for the weak. American’s talk too much. We put in too much detail, about everything. American’s like conflict.
The Chinese like to prepare.
They like to plan and meticulously navigate through every decision in their life. They do show emotion. They don’t like to show weakness in any way. Women do not smile in pictures. And, when they tell you to do something, don’t say a word. Just do it. Do it their way.
You are not an individual.
You are part of the greater good. It is what’s best for the company, family, and country as a whole. We’re all part of a team. Your opinion is important when you’ve proven yourself, but, a nice side note is that the managers in China do it backwards. You are perfect until you prove them wrong, in America you have to prove yourself first.
So, as I said before, I decided that it was time to learn the Art of War (and I don’t mean in Mr. Timm’s AP English class at Hoppy High) this is different. Right on the cover it says, “it is not about war, it is about the art.” So, it was time for me to learn about the art of not being Western and tune into my chi, become one with myself. It was time to learn everything I could about myself before I could learn about my enemy or everyone else around me.
Take a few minutes to meditate throughout the day.
Starting with first thing in the morning. Feel your own breaths (I haven’t gotten to the point where I’m doing that but that’s not what the book recommends). Trust your intuition. In other words, trust your gut. If it doesn’t feel right, step back and wait. Prepare, and wait, until it does feel right.
Timing is everything.
“Don’t become your own worst enemy. Use your instincts to determine when the time is right to set your plans in motion.” As Master Sun put it, you control your destiny so don’t get too excited too fast and make impulsive decisions. As in, don’t be too American.
The best part of working for an international company is learning different cultural styles. Different ways of thinking and certainly different ways of operating. The Art of War for Women has taught me to slow down and process before speaking. It has taught me to think like a chess player, and to wait for the right time to present anything or submit something.
Most importantly, it has taught me to trust myself, get to know me, for who I am, and accept and enjoy that woman, as opposed to battling with myself.
Read it. You’ll thank me.